well hello! i am back. i've had a few people asking me if i am still blogging. yes, i am still doing the dare. life has taken on a much busier scene in the past month or so. i am directing 2 different shows right now, so i am just trying to get through September. life should slow down a tad in October. only a tad though, as i will be directing a musical at work. since life has picked back up, things are very different then they were last year when i was this busy. my husband and i are taking the time we need to spend together. we are trying not to be strangers passing in the night. it's a slow fade, and when you aren't getting time with your spouse, you inevitably will start to fade. i know. i have made a serious effort to keep all weekends open, so we have a "date night" at least once a week, and get some time with our friends as well, which is also important to us. i'm praying a lot more now too. specifically for my husband. the last dare i did about a month ago has really stuck with me. love intercedes. my relationship feels so much safer when i know it rests in the hands of my sovereign God. i love bringing my requests about my husband to Him and laying them at His feet - trusting that He is doing a work in my husband. trusting that He is shaping us both into the perfect creatures we will be when we see Christ finally someday. all of this to say, God's grace has been more than sufficient. i am so undeserving!
i'm ready to commit to moving forward. beginning with today's dare on intimacy. the book is not actually talking about sexual intimacy yet, but an emotional intimacy. the question comes up: does my husband feel safe with me? does he feel like he can tell me anything without hearing a lecture! our husbands should feel so comfortable around us that they feel they could tell us anything! i am a "fixer." i like to fix problems and move forward. i tend to try to correct the situation and make it right, when most of the time, i just need to listen to my husband. i know i need to do a better job with this.
"Like Adam and Eve in the garden, your closeness should only intensify your intimacy. Being 'naked' and 'not ashamed' (Genesis 2:25) should exist in the same sentence, right in your marriage - physically and emotionally" (pg. 82).
i want to end this post praising the God who knows us better than our spouses know us. we are safe and should feel comfortable in His sovereign arms!
"You know when i sit down and when i rise up; You understand my thought from afar. You scrutinize my path and my lying down, and are intimately acquainted with all my ways. even before there is a word on my tongue, behold, O Lord, You know it all." Psalm 139:2-4
Dare: "Determine to guard your mate's secrets (unless they are dangerous to them or you) and to pray for them. Talk with your spouse, and resolve to demonstrate love in spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thoughts and struggles with you. Make them feel safe."
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